in response to marie t... http://www.doe.virginia.gov/special_ed/regulations/state/procedural_safeguards/english_procedural_safeguards.pdf
DO NOT do an IEP by phone. DO NOT sign anything that you don't agree with. If you sign an IEP and don't agree you have the right (and should) to write out why you disagree and what you want changed or added. MAKE sure they include a behavior plan for him. TRY to get an advocate to help. Search for one online. There should be a advocacy group that may at least point you in the right direction.
This site is great so check the whole thing out... you may even find your answer if you search their site... it's where I started. This link goes to your state but check their home page too:
http://www.wrightslaw.com/virginia/regs.index.htm
http://www.yellowpagesforkids.com/help/va.htm
A whole list of advocates in your state. They may be able to help you for free and if not maybe tell you who can.
http://www.doe.virginia.gov/special_ed/resolving_disputes/due_process/legal_advocacy_groups.pdf
Also try to talk so someone higher up the chain like the director of special ed in the district AND the state.
Good Luck!
